Making heads and Tails out of it..A question to my online peoples

I remember reading a old Essence magazine where the writer a female was stating the way you start a relationship is basically the way it will end.

Like if you pick up behind a guy youll be doing it till...

I didnt think much of it till I exploded this evening. I never ever, really get mad and stuff when things that Gabe does makes me mad but for the first time in a long tim e. I lost it.

For the past year we have scrimped to replace the living room furniture and today the Cocktail table was cracked. I was never so mad in my life. YES, its a simple table but when you ask someone what happend and NO one but no ones knows anything it can be infuriating.

All these years its been that way. Its hard dealing with someone sometimes when getting anything out of them information wise is like pulling hens teeth. Hens dont have teeth and so you end up with nothing at all!

Im at my wits end. I dont want to always have to go behind someone and tell them what to do. When to do it it makes me feel like im raising a child. It makes me feel like a dictator. Im not bossy and expect them to just do what needs to be done. But im not getting that and I swear I thought I tried everything in the book

If I ask it will get done and finacilly thats not a problem. Its not a money thing at all its a sharing the respoonsibilty of the house stuff. ITS LITERALY DRIVING ME CRAZY. I didnt know if i wanted to scream, fight or cry. but I just want him to take initive to do things. Besides take down the garbage on his way out.

Even his brother has been a blessing with mopping the kitchen when we are working, washing the dishes. But I still cant gGabe to do crao like he wants to live literally like a homeless person. Is that a sign of mental disorder? Thats what im feeling

Its really frustrating and the worst part is all my friends are single or the few that are in relationships are wdating married people The women I know cant really address a problem like this from my perspective.

Im wondering how do you get someone to take initive wittout being cruel without the cursing. Ive talked now for close to 7 years and it seems that it changes for a week or two but then everything sloides back.

Moreover, My friend here is like I dont know a kid its like he wont get upset he just puts his head down and makes you feel like your a nagging azz for going on and on. I guess thats technique.

I really want this to work but Im tired of having to raise him and hes like 44 years old! It works good when I make him do stuff but is that just a persons eway and is it written in stone or is their a technique. Id appreciate any feedback cause im really feelin the stress with this time of year and all.